New season, new skaters!
The Chicago Outfit's first home game of the season is coming up this Saturday, April 26th, so that means it's time to meet some of our newest skaters! Read on to learn more about Sugar McMayhem and her Mighty Girls. Click here for $15 advance tickets to the home opener! Tickets are $20 at the door, with discounts available online for groups of 10 or more. If a season pass is more your style, click here to find out more.
A little over a year ago, I turned 40. If you are counting, this means that I am now within my forties. Huh? I am not sure how that happened so quickly, but I do know that while it was sneaking up on me over the last 15 years, I created three beautiful human beings. Three unique, kind, spirited, stubborn, brilliant, loving, spunky girls. My Mighty Girls. My life.
A couple weeks before that milestone birthday, I said to my husband, “I can’t believe I’m turning forty. I haven’t tried roller derby yet.” (Insert "Feel-sorry-for-me face" here.) It had been on my to-do list for a while. (Side-note: our middle girl even has the nickname of “Roller Derby” from a playful twist on”Tootsie”-to-”Tootsie Roll”-to-”Tootsie Roller”-to-”The Roller”-to-”Roller Derby”-to just “Derby.”) It had been in the back of my mind for a while, but buried by piles of other things...like laundry and thoughts of “Buy more milk, schedule those appointments, don’t forget the bills, toilets need scrubbing, when is the last time I showered, I forgot to pay the bills, I wonder if I can pass this off as dinner...”
You see, I am a stay at home mom. Best job in the universe? Yes. Sometimes mundane and overwhelming? Double yes. Usually unappreciated and notoriously unpaid? Uh huh. But, oh so rewarding and humbling. Man, does the precious time ﬂy. My Mighty Girls are now 14, 8, and 3.
My girls don’t know too much about who I was before being “Mama.” That seems to happen sometimes when you become a Mom. It isn’t about you anymore and that is a very good thing, but you have to be careful not to lose yourself within this role. I have been so busy rearing and raising them, that I have to remind myself to also be a living and breathing example for them. I realized that my very own girls needed to see and understand this other side of me, to realize that Mama doesn’t live in the kitchen and only exist within this parental description. Growing up, I was pretty much a tomboy. I always enjoyed all sorts of physical activities, but I was more what you’d call a utility athlete. I could play most sports and hold my own, but I didn’t land on a particular one and excel. It was in college that I discovered a love of rugby, and subsequently I found my scrappiness. I then taught Elementary P.E. for a couple of years before getting hitched and welcoming babies. You see, it doesn’t really translate to just tell your kids about what you’ve tried, things you’ve accomplished...”Did I ever tell you that I loved playing rugby in college?” just doesn’t work into the conversation as you are searching the freezer for more wafﬂes or perched on the edge of the tub, cheering on a potty-trainer.
Then, there it was at my local roller rink. A recreational league for women wanting to learn/play roller derby. A week before I turned 40, I checked out my ﬁrst practice with that team. I loved it. I asked for roller derby gear for my big birthday and my family chipped in. 40 and sporty! I felt young, and I felt ready.
Well, that rec team came and went. So did I from roller derby for a handful of months, due to a medical condition with one of my girls. Family ﬁrst, always. Things settled, and a friend I met while playing derby (Shout out to you, Pit Bull Princess!) encouraged me to come to the Outﬁt bootcamps last November. I missed skating and I wanted to learn more. I wanted to be challenged and I wanted the evaluation. I needed to recharge and restrengthen my everything. Never did I imagine I’d actually make the tryouts, but here I am, giving it my all. I am here to prove it to myself, and to show my girls, that women can have it all. You can get your college degree and still choose to stay home with your kids. You can bathe the little ones while changing skate bearings.
You can even take up roller derby in your forties.
- Sugar McMayhem, #10