9 Months Off Skates: The Derby Pregnancy Blog, Part 5

One way I tried to stay engaged? Cheering my team on. Photo credit: Susan B. Slamthony

One way I tried to stay engaged? Cheering my team on. Photo credit: Susan B. Slamthony

Becoming Emotionally Inactive

Here's another tale of "Don't Do What Subie Does." See, after I was informed that I could not skate anymore, and basically all of my favorite workouts were no longer advised (see my last blog), I started becoming even more disconnected from my league than planned. I found out I was going to be off-skates just as the off-season was beginning, and when my league went back to practice, I had a hard time convincing myself to go.

Stand around watching everyone do something I love but can't do? And do that late at night when I want to be home in bed? Nah. I'll take the forgiving elastic waist of my favorite PJ's and a bedtime routine that now begins 30 minutes before practice even starts, thank you very much. Even worse, I was pregnant after just one season with my league and the few close relationships I had made were also taking breaks from derby.

So, I stopped coming to practice, I stopped coaching, and I retreated to a small corner of my league's projects to dutifully complete my monthly requirement of work hours. I fell off people's radars. And derby mostly fell off mine.

It didn't feel good. It didn't feel right. I don't know what to say other than I didn't like it and don't recommend it.

Instead, I would encourage you to find a way to stay involved with your league. Your derby people will continue to care about you, just as they did when you were skating, but be patient with each other. They will still have the derby things that take up all of their time, so you may find yourself having to be the one to go out of your way to interact with them. Drag your tired butt to practice a couple of times a month. Help the coaches or even do your prenatal yoga in the corner while everyone else is doing their endurance. NSO during scrimmage night. Whatever you do, find a way to stay emotionally engaged with your league.

#96 Susan B. Slamthony